Attempting to scare people into righteousness isn't a new tactic. Its a very old one. An although often the intentions are in the right place FEAR based persuasion does more to hurt then help in the long run (at least in my humble opinion).
I started thinking.....Sex is like sugar.
I like metaphor.
Sex is natural. Sex is beautiful. Sex is pleasurable.
And sex can be abused....badly....in horrific ways.
Some have decided that since sex can be bad....it is bad. It's not to be talked about. Its not to be enjoyed. In fact the most holy people, will choose to abstain from it all together.
In comes the guilt...in comes the shame...in comes the dysfunction.
The puritanical ideas about sex that seem to exist in this country haven't lead to purity. They have led to child pornography, To Catch a Predator and rape.
Sex is the most glorious of human experiences, it is not inherently bad and neither is sugar.
Sugar is just Sugar...and it is pretty freaking awesome.
Sure sugar can be abused. Sure too much of it isn't good for us. But a moderate amount of sugar in our diets is fine. It's probably even essential.
But I'm not that nutrition/science person...I'm going down that rabbit hole. But I do know something about feelings and human behavior especially in relationship to food.
FEAR and GUILT don't keep people away from too much sugar. In fact they probably often cause a cycle of binge and purge. A period of restriction (No sugar!), followed by gluttonous abandon that leaves one feeling ill...emotionally and physically.
What if we just told people to pay attention to their own experience of sugar, in their own bodies....rather than try to scare them? They might be able to experience that one cookie is enough, that they don't have to eat the whole bag. They might be able to have a scoop of ice cream once a week, instead of for breakfast lunch and dinner for two weeks straight.
Sugar isn't the bad guy, anymore than sex is. No food is "bad". Food is just food. Sex is Sex. The stuff of life.