Luckily I know this has nothing to do with an inherent part of being a women. I have been blessed to be with groups of women in my life that support each other. So this behavior is something we learn, not carry in our genes.
I'm no sociologist. I'm sure there are actual theories on this topic, I don't know them...I don't need to. What I know is that it doesn't have to be this way...and my post today is a call to action for whomever reads it.
Ladies, we need to start treating each other better. We need to support and love each other.
And guess what...its not just about her....its about us. What we put out into the world is what comes back. If we judge and tear down her....guess what we are doing to ourselves?
I am just as guilty of mean girl behavior as the next one. I wish I could say I was 100% of the time in alignment with supporting my fellow womankind. I need a reminder too. So today I'm going to reaffirm, and hope you will with me.
No More Mean Girl Pledge
I pledge to do unto her, what I would have her do unto me.
I will refrain from derogatory gossip about her to others.
I seek not to judge her, however when I notice a judgment I will notice it and let it go.
I will not compare myself or my body to her or her body. I will appreciate both of us.
I will not assume to know her reason, her motivations, her unique path.
In my acceptance of our individuality, we are connected.
When I admire her, I will tell her. However I will not speak kind words, unless they are authentic.
I will not take her actions or words to heart, I am strong in my own sense of self, knowing what she does or says that might be hurtful, has nothing actually to do with me.
I will serve as a role model to other women on how to treat each other, especially to the little ones.
What else do you pledge??
The movie Mean Girls, takes a satirical but powerful look at this issue.