Monday, December 10, 2012

Tears for Her

Today I'm trying something different, video instead of writing.  I felt so emotional this morning that writing the words felt really difficult so I decided to just talk.  Let me know what you think.
 
 
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2 comments:

Misty said...

I've been married for 15 years this past August. I met my husband when we were in school and he was "underweight" - he was 5'11 with a 28" waist and a 32"+ inseam! Shortly before we got married - we were 20 - he was wearing 30x34s and then I joked years later that he started working out and GAINED an inch in his waist! (Sidenote: that isn't really a joke at all, it's TRUTH - but people THINK I'm joking.) I, on the other hand, ALWAYS struggled with my weight. I have been overweight my entire life and until about 2 years ago I had NO idea that I had a severe gluten intolerance. Most of those years I have been considered "morbidly obese" - no doctors considered me particularly unhealthy, I had great "numbers". (Just because the scale read over 300 pounds and they encouraged me to lose weight to "feel better". I have great blood pressure, cholesterol, and no diabetes.) I've lost nearly 50 pounds in the last 2 years by eliminating gluten with no regular/routine exercise thus far - I'm working on that, though. :) My husband and I have 2 children: a son, 12.5yo and a daughter, 2yo. Our son is built JUST like his father. This really bothers my husband because he was made fun of for being so skinny - never-mind the fact that despite MY weight advantage when we were dating (about 60-70lbs+) my husband could win every time we wrestled - I could ONLY win if it was a balance game! (Yeah...we rough-housed a lot back then! lol!) My son feels strong and energetic most of the time and we don't have big issues with him. I have always been hard on myself for my size/weight/shape/etc. My daughter - she's built JUST like me. We're the same shape, we walk the same, carry ourselves the same way...and she's only TWO! I've realized that what I hate in my OWN body shape, I LOVE and ADORE in hers. And I've also realized that there are a lot of things that I'm going to have to watch out for and eliminate from my vocabulary so as not to essentially teach her what I have known my entire life: poor self-image, no self-esteem and zero confidence. My husband and I both want better for our children than what we have known. Thank you for being one to step up and encourage other people and parents to notice and do the same. And I love Amber at GoKaleo, too! :)

Stephanie Vincent said...

Thanks for sharing Misty. Having my daughter, I believe help catapult me into making real change in myself. I did not want her to experience what i had and I knew something had to change and it wasn't just my weight. I new I had to love myself if I was to ever teach her to do the same. Its a lifelong process, but with honesty I have faith my children will have a base that will raise them up far past even where i stand today :-)