The first time I heard it I was like, "YEAH BABY!" But them it was called to my attention the possible implications of this statement.
The intention behind the statement is a good one. I love the idea of women embracing their strength….physically & mentally. I love the idea of focusing on the functioning of your body rather than what it looks like. However I have to say, I don’t want strong to be the new skinny….I don’t want any other definable adjective to be the new skinny.
So what is skinny? Skinny to me refers to the “ideal image of beauty” for American women. The ideal that says your not sexy unless your size 6 or less. An ideal that for a majority of woman is not possible without an unnatural restriction of calories.
So if we are replacing skinny, with strong, doesn’t that then make strong the new “ideal of image of beauty?” Is it just finding something new in its place to allow us feel less than, in our own bodies? Instead of envying your friends weight or pants size….are you now going to envy their biceps and bench press?
Maybe I’m reading too much into it….but it’s worth thinking about.
What if we don’t replace skinny? What if we instead we scratch the idea of a standard ideal image of beauty and instead feel beautiful in our very own skin…as it fits today?
If you want to find out how fit or healthy your body can be, how much weight it can lift, how fast it can move…..then stop looking around at the gals around you. Because her genetics aren’t your genetics. Your body just might not be meant to be a size 6 (without sacrificing physical and emotional health). No matter how many crunches you do, you might not ever get her six pack. You can strength train for the next 5 years every day, and you might not catch her deadlift. And guess what? It doesn’t matter….not at all. Not to anyone who loves you. Not to your inherent worth as a person. Definitely not to your highest self that knows the full glory of who you are in each and every moment.
I truly believe accepting yourself and seeing your beauty as it stand in this very moment is the only way you can ever achieve what it possible in your physical body. You can aspire to be fitter, healthier or stronger… there is nothing wrong with that. But if your motivation for those goals is because you don’t like who you are, because you won’t be happy until you achieve them, because you want to be like someone else….than you will fail…..eventually. You might fail completely and the very least short change what is possible. You might even fail after being successful and discovering you’re still not happy.
Go after your goals instead motivated by the love of your body. Love so great that you want it to be its most functional, strongest, fittest, and healthiest possible manifestation in this life.
Strong isn’t the new skinny.
You are the new skinny.
You are the ideal image of beauty…right now.
“We cannot change anything unless we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses.”
- Carl Jung
Last blog post I announced I am becoming a Professional Life Coach. 2011 is the year of the coach for me, because next month I am also becoming a CrossFit Coach. So very excited!