Thursday, December 30, 2010

Acceptance vs. Resignation

People often worry that by accepting their bodies or themselves that they will lose the motivation to become more healthy. They confuse acceptance with resignation.

To accept is to receive.
To resign is to give up.

Resignation is saying NO I don’t like my body; NO I can’t change my behaviors its too hard, NO! NO! NO…why bother?
Acceptance is saying YES, I can love the body I currently have, YES I will choose behaviors in congruence with that love with ease! YES! YES! Yes…what have I got to lose?

I say, acceptance is the ONLY way you will ever truly be motivated to embrace behaviors that will make you healthier. The only way that changing behaviors will be easy, rather than a test of will power.

However before you can truly accept….you must start paying attention.

You are not your thoughts, not the voice inside your head, not your emotions. You are the YOU that can witness the rest. Drop into that YOU and watch what you have to say about your body and yourself.

You just might find that those words aren’t true, that they never were. Any when those beliefs fall away…what’s left to do but accept yourself as the glorious person you are, body and all?

Its time to stop fighting….stop resisting. It’s not a matter of giving up, but a matter of receiving…your WHOLE self…your authentic self…the you that already knows how amazingly perfect you are.



"Acceptance of one's life has nothing to do with resignation; it does not mean running away from the struggle. On the contrary, it means accepting it as it comes, with all the handicaps of heredity, of suffering, of psychological complexes and injustices."
- Dr. Paul Tournier


Mel_Joulwan said...

Love. This.

Thank you, gorgeous girl!

Ashley said...

Hi Stephanie:

I just stumbled across your blog - (from Melissa's, actually) - and I gotta say that I am in absolute LOVE with your message about "hateloss". It is amazingly, amazingly true.

It also makes me think about an awesome book called "Perfect Girls, Starving Daughters", which is basically about women's self-worth being tied to with their weight and outside accomplishments.

Thanks for sharing such a great message!


Anonymous said...

Thanks ashley!! I'll check out the book!!! When i finaly discovered the truth...I had no choice but todo everything I can to help others realize it too!