Coaching is about taking the client where she is right now and moving her forward (sometimes catapulting her) in the direction of her dreams. Therapy is really about looking back and healing. While coaching can be profoundly healing the focus is really on present circumstances and what’s possible. Coaching also holds the client as naturally creative, resourceful and whole. There is nothing to fix!
Q: How has working with life coaching clients impacted you personally?
What a great question! I feel totally alive and enlivened when I’m coaching. Every particle of my being is over there, focused on what’s possible for my client. I’m often amazed at what’s available when we clear away the voice of the saboteur, the one who wants to keep us small, preserve the status quo. It’s an incredible honor to witness the transformation of my clients.
Q: How would you define the term “authentic self”?
Authentic self is who we each are at our essence. This is our innate magnificence. When we lead authentic lives, fulfillment is a natural state. Authenticity is what shines through when we clear up all the accumulated limiting beliefs.
Q: What things in your life have helped most to connect with your authentic self?
About 6 years ago I participated in a retreat through the Hoffman Institute. This is an 8 day program designed to release you from negative conditioning and help you access your untapped resources of power, wisdom and creativity. And boy does it deliver! I now run a support group for local Hoffman Graduates in the Philadelphia area.
Q: So many of us struggle with self- hate, self-loathing, feeling “not good enough” Why do you think that is and what steps would you suggest to work to change this?
It’s mystifying to me how so many of us live in that state of never feeling ‘good enough’. The antidote to this is learning to be fully present to what is, to our lives, to each other. Meditation is a direct route, if you can sit still. I’m an avid yogi. This is my way of staying present on and off the mat. I also think hiring a coach is a great way out of this painful trap-having a fierce advocate for your joy, for your full potential, an advocate for your dreams, someone who holds you accountable to yourself, this is a powerful way to challenge those demons that keep us small, keep us in this state of self doubt and even self hatred.
Q: How would you say being in the present moment, changes a person’s experience?
I recently had the experience of climbing high into a redwood tree and crossing a rickety bridge to another majestic tree, sitting on a platform high in this second tree and swinging from this 30 foot height into thin air. Terrifying even to think about it! I kept returning to Eckhart Tolle’s brilliant phrase, ’there is nothing in this moment that I cannot handle’. By being FULLY present I was able to achieve something I never would have thought possible. This freedom is always available to us. The present moment is always right here, full of infinite possibility. This moment is all we ever have. It’s all right here, right now.
From the work we’ve done together, Stephanie, I imagine we would both agree that living in the present moment is the definition of freedom.
Q: What value do you place on a person identifying their values and visioning for their life?
Values are like a compass, a tuning fork, a barometer-there are so many metaphors here. Identifying values is a key component of coaching and it’s the key to living authentically, in other words the key to happiness and fulfillment (which are not necessarily the same thing). Our values define who we are and how we are in the world. When our life is driven by our values we feel right in the world and it’s from here that possibilities really open up for us.
Visioning is also hugely powerful. Visioning is not an intellectual activity, it’s not ‘planning for the future’. It’s really powerful to put your intention out into the universe. This shifts the energy of the universe and invites possibility into your life. I often have clients say to me ’I came across the vision we created together last year and I can’t believe how much of it is happening for me!”. Visioning is another way of living with intention and creating your reality.
Q: What books have inspired you, changed you?
I can burn out on self help books but these five I have found truly transformative. These are not how to books but books about Being.
The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz
Presence by Peter Senge
The Anatomy of Peace, put out by the Arbinger Institute
Loving What Is by Byron Katie
Q: If someone is interested in life coaching with you how would they go about contacting you?
Call me. It’s the greatest gift you can give yourself! I believe we all deserve to live life full-out and fully who we are. Discover your Joy! I offer free complimentary coaching consultations to see if coaching is right for you. 610-580-9612
Thank you Rosy for answering my questions and for being RADICAL! I want to share with the world my testimonial about you as a lifecoach, hopefully it will help you, help more people to discover their true potential.
My Testimonial for Life Coach Rosy Elliott:
"I am fortunate to have been a life coaching client of Rosy Elliott’s for over two years now. If positive change in my life is a measurement of the effectiveness of Rosy as a Life Coach, her ratings would be off the charts. When I started coaching I was struggling with depression and emotional pain that translated into destructive behaviors that affected myself and my family. Through life coaching I discovered my life’s purpose, living in the present moment. After making that decision my life started to change. Coaching both instigated changes and supported me through the changes that happened organically in my life. Recently I looked back at a vision I had written during a coaching session early on and I was shocked how that Vision was now manifest in my life. I am at my lifetime healthiest, in mind, body and spirit. I have no doubt that the coaching process with Rosy was an essential part of my transition into wellness. Rosy says coaching is like spiritual midwifery, and I couldn’t agree more. Rosy's knowledge, technique, energy, clarity and wisdom have guided me through the birthing of my authentic self. She has from the very beginning of this relationship held the image of my highest self, even when I did not. I cannot thank Rosy enough for sharing her gifts with me. "
"The deepest secret is that life is not a process of discovery, but a process of creation. You are not discovering yourself, but creating yourself anew. Seek, therefore, not to find out Who You Are, seek to determine Who You Want to Be. "
-From Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsh
-From Conversations with God by Neale Donald Walsh
This weekend I celebrate my 30th birthday and I am psyched. At thirty I feel better than I ever have, and as I grow older, I embrace limitless possibilities. Look for upcoming blog posts about the celebration :-)