Monday, November 23, 2009

Why You Shouldn't Feel Bad About Relapsing by Rafi Bar-Lev of Passionate Fitness

This is a guest post by Rafi Bar-Lev, a former combat medic and founder of the community fitness site, Passionate Fitness.  Check it out!
Yes, we know the story. You're just one week into your diet and workout routine, passionate and serious about it as one can be, when you find yourself at your best friend's BBQ. You know you shouldn't give in and allow yourself to binge eat, but you just can't help yourself. And not only do you eat more than you should, you eat more than you would if you weren't on a diet.


When the meal is over, you can't help but hate yourself. The next day you give up on your diet and workout plan, and resign yourself to a life of being overweight and out of shape.

Sound familiar?

One of the most crucial parts of dieting and weight loss and everything else, and the thing that is least discussed, is how not to let failure deter you from success. EVERYONE relapses. EVERYONE. Me, you, Hollywood actors...everyone! The most important thing is that when it happens, and chances are that it will, you don't freak out. You accept that you messed up, forget about it, smile that you got to binge eat one last time and get right back into your diet and workout routine.

Once you gain the ability not to psyche yourself out over your diet or occasional mess up, losing weight and following your routine will be much easier for you. Not only that, chances are that with time, you'll be able to binge eat once in awhile and not worry about losing those hard earned abs. ;)


What are you waiting for? Go out there and succeed!



I would like to start of by saying thank you to Rafi, for guest posting on Radical Hateloss! Please take the time to check out his site PassionateFitness.com. Now for the Radical Hateloss spin on his article:


"When the meal is over, you can't help but hate yourself. The next day you give up on your diet…”

One of the most important things about LOVING yourself...is that it must be unconditional. With all of our best intentions, we all slip into "old behaviors" or "old ways" of thinking. The important thing is that we bring consciousness to the act that we slipped, accept it and then let it go! I would interchange the word "diet" with "eating healthy." Either way you get the idea.


"Once you gain the ability not to psyche yourself out over your diet or occasional mess up, losing weight and following your routine will be much easier for you."

There is a simple answer to how to "not psyche yourself out", it is by embracing the present moment. If you are truly present in each moment it doesn't matter what happened yesterday, or even 5 minutes ago. Each moment is a new opportunity to refocus on the present moment, where only self-love can exist.  If you focus on the present moment, weighloss and fitness routine can become effortless.  I wouldn't have believed it my self, a short while ago, but the present moment is miraculously transformative, I'm in awe of its power!


"...you'll be able to binge eat once in awhile and not worry...

"Binge eat" might just might mean filling up uncomfortably at thanksgiving dinner to the average person, but to me, a person who has battled with disordered eating "binge eat" means something else. When I used to "binge eat" I was filling up to numb or escape my emotional pain. I don't ever want to use food like that again (if I did could however go right into the next moment and refocus!") What I think, Rafi is trying to say, is that it is ok for a  person to occasionally eat outside of their normal way of eating without feeling guilty. I too may decide to have a piece of pizza or cake occasionally. The important thing is to make the choice consciously. If you are present in the moment with that piece of cake, there is no room for guilt!


"What are you waiting for? Go out there and succeed!"

Ditto!! Seize the moment...it the only thing that is real!  Being present is ultimate success!


Quote:

If nothing else, my life has taught me one thing: The mind and body that I have are the only mind and body that I have. They deserve my attention. And when I give it, I receive so much more in return.
--Matthew Sanford

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2 comments:

Rafi Bar-Lev said...

Thanks for the opportunity to guest post Stephanie. You have a great blog here!

donkey said...

and thank you for giving me a way to feel better about the damage i did this past weekend. thursday was bad. friday was worse, ironically, and saturday was a complete mess.

i'm back on the wagon, but ugh. i spent all day in bed today from the post-crap eating crash, and i feel that cold i've been fighting for weeks gaining traction because i let my body get all junked up.

blah!